If you've been alive for atleast a few years, you will know that people lie, and if you have a social media account, you will feel that the infulencers lie even more, not all of them but lying, misleading, hiding the truth has now become the intrinsic part of social media these days.
People lie about their lives,
people are misleading about their intentions,
and people hide what they're going through.
You see, many social media influencers upholding the image that they have created for themselves and make a lot of money is far more important than honesty or authenticity.
Now everyone who shares on social media is allowed to keep certain aspects of their life private but where it becomes problem is when those who preach positivity and profit of you believing they are super happy and positive are not actually as happy as positive as they want you think they are.
The way that positivity is promoting these days is very unhealthy and harmful. Many influencers who people look upto and model their lives and ways of thinking after act like as long as you are positive everything's gonna be alright and all you problems will just disappear.
" Stop focusing on the negatives, look at the positives "
This can definitely be helpful but it sends a very subliminal message that if we stop thinking about our problems, they will go away and that's how we should deal with issues.
In reality, disregaring our unpleasant emotions by trying to " just think positively " doesn't help us understand them and usually leads to more unhappiness because we are just burying those emotions deeper down within.
There are countless practices that can improve our lives, like ; reciting affirmations, expressing gratitude and having a more positive mindset. But just doing these things does not get to the root of the problem. these are more of just a temporary way to improve our current moment.
if we want long term solutions, we actually have to do the opposite.
we need to allow ourselves to think about and feel those emotions, we need to find where they stem from and identify what is causing them. we need to stop looking at unpleasant emotions as "good" and unpleasant emotions as "bad". both serve a purpose in our lives, both are equally important to our growth and well being.
Our negative thoughts and feelings are our teachers and if we choose not to hide from them, they can be a way better to understand ourselves and our current needs.
Being happy 24/7 is ofcourse impossible. we all feel unpleasant emotions and we shouldn't be afraid of them or try to stop them. instead if we allow ourselves to feel and understand them, we can come to a place where they don't arise as frequently or strongly to begin with.
Influencers who create content about positivity feel all the same emotions that anyone else does and its okay if they don't wanna talk about certain things in their lives but we have to realize that just because someone looks happy, doesn't mean they are happy. Just because someone is always telling is that they are a super positive person, doesn't mean that they are telling us the truth.
It is very easy to fake who you are and how you're feeling through photos and videos that are usually just an edited highlight reel of your life. Often, these influencers are dealing with their own emotional problems, that they may feel like they can't talk about because it would affect their reputation or how people view their advice or they may feel like people wouldn't be as attracted to their content if they weren't always upbeat and bubbly.
Faking positivity on social media is far from uncommon so it's important to take everything we see with a grain of salt. It's ofcourse fine to look upto influencers for inspiration, but know that they have it all figured out. they may struggle with things that they don't share online. they may not always be as positive and happy as they want you to believe and no matter how influential or inspirational they are, their advice might not always be the best solution for you.
Do not be afraid of your feelings. Being angry, sad, hurt or confused are not punishments, having days where you don't love yourself very much, spending time thinking of all the things that you think are wrong with you, or feeling like you'll never accomplish your goals and dreams are all normal feelings to experience.
They don't need to be pushed away with an instantaneous mindset change, they need your presence and intentions if they are to be truly resolved.
We cannot overcome our problems by forgetting about them, that only creates temporary alleviation. Our thoughts, feelings and emotions are all important. when we undertand that importance, we can become more mindful of how properly deal with things that come up and react in ways that will benefit our lives long term.
People lie about their lives,
people are misleading about their intentions,
and people hide what they're going through.
You see, many social media influencers upholding the image that they have created for themselves and make a lot of money is far more important than honesty or authenticity.
Now everyone who shares on social media is allowed to keep certain aspects of their life private but where it becomes problem is when those who preach positivity and profit of you believing they are super happy and positive are not actually as happy as positive as they want you think they are.
The way that positivity is promoting these days is very unhealthy and harmful. Many influencers who people look upto and model their lives and ways of thinking after act like as long as you are positive everything's gonna be alright and all you problems will just disappear.
" Stop focusing on the negatives, look at the positives "
This can definitely be helpful but it sends a very subliminal message that if we stop thinking about our problems, they will go away and that's how we should deal with issues.
In reality, disregaring our unpleasant emotions by trying to " just think positively " doesn't help us understand them and usually leads to more unhappiness because we are just burying those emotions deeper down within.
There are countless practices that can improve our lives, like ; reciting affirmations, expressing gratitude and having a more positive mindset. But just doing these things does not get to the root of the problem. these are more of just a temporary way to improve our current moment.
if we want long term solutions, we actually have to do the opposite.
we need to allow ourselves to think about and feel those emotions, we need to find where they stem from and identify what is causing them. we need to stop looking at unpleasant emotions as "good" and unpleasant emotions as "bad". both serve a purpose in our lives, both are equally important to our growth and well being.
Our negative thoughts and feelings are our teachers and if we choose not to hide from them, they can be a way better to understand ourselves and our current needs.
Being happy 24/7 is ofcourse impossible. we all feel unpleasant emotions and we shouldn't be afraid of them or try to stop them. instead if we allow ourselves to feel and understand them, we can come to a place where they don't arise as frequently or strongly to begin with.
Influencers who create content about positivity feel all the same emotions that anyone else does and its okay if they don't wanna talk about certain things in their lives but we have to realize that just because someone looks happy, doesn't mean they are happy. Just because someone is always telling is that they are a super positive person, doesn't mean that they are telling us the truth.
It is very easy to fake who you are and how you're feeling through photos and videos that are usually just an edited highlight reel of your life. Often, these influencers are dealing with their own emotional problems, that they may feel like they can't talk about because it would affect their reputation or how people view their advice or they may feel like people wouldn't be as attracted to their content if they weren't always upbeat and bubbly.
Faking positivity on social media is far from uncommon so it's important to take everything we see with a grain of salt. It's ofcourse fine to look upto influencers for inspiration, but know that they have it all figured out. they may struggle with things that they don't share online. they may not always be as positive and happy as they want you to believe and no matter how influential or inspirational they are, their advice might not always be the best solution for you.
Do not be afraid of your feelings. Being angry, sad, hurt or confused are not punishments, having days where you don't love yourself very much, spending time thinking of all the things that you think are wrong with you, or feeling like you'll never accomplish your goals and dreams are all normal feelings to experience.
They don't need to be pushed away with an instantaneous mindset change, they need your presence and intentions if they are to be truly resolved.
We cannot overcome our problems by forgetting about them, that only creates temporary alleviation. Our thoughts, feelings and emotions are all important. when we undertand that importance, we can become more mindful of how properly deal with things that come up and react in ways that will benefit our lives long term.
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